Self-esteem is the "hype man" or "back up" of self-worth. It directly precedes after we measure and determine our worth. Without self-esteem, self-worth is almost void. When we esteem something, we have regards for it. It holds a level of importance. If we have low self-esteem we will have a low level of honor in ourselves. There will be no need for anyone else to honor you if you don't have any honor for yourself first. And if our esteem is high, we hold ourselves to a higher standard. People like this have an aura of confidence wherever they go. When our esteem is low, it shows in lack of motivation, poor self-image, and often poor communication and relational skills.
Studies say 4 in 5 women have low self-esteem. - Huffington Post
7 in 10 girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way. - Heart of Leadership, National Report on Self-Esteem
98% of girls feel there is an immense pressure from external sources to look a certain way. - National Report on Self Esteem
The problem we have with self-esteem is that our external sources are driving the culture to believe we have to fit a certain description to be accepted. There is a huge billion-dollar influence behind our thoughts and perceptions, and we can barely recognize it because we are so plugged in (view my vlog on The Truth About Media) . If millions of people have low self-esteem, no wonder our culture has become morally rotten. When we lack worth and esteem, it is easy for someone or something to tell us who we are, we are easily bought, won over, and swayed to believe the lies.
People may hate me for this one, but I honestly feel that a woman who wakes up every morning to cake her face with makeup daily does not have an appreciation or high esteem of herself. What drives her self-esteem is probably based on how flawless she can look. I often wonder why we as women always feel the need to cover our beautiful faces. If this is you, I want to encourage you to learn to appreciate the beautiful creature you are, hand-crafted specially by God.
Our self-esteem and worth play a large part in our actions and reactions. They are essential pieces to our character, which governs our response to life. I'll give you an example, if you look at a beautiful woman and instantly feel some type of way about yourself then there may be a serious deep rooted issue of insecurity lurking within you. And I understand it. Maybe you were bullied growing up, maybe recently you were hurt and betrayed by someone you trusted...either way, it is a deep rooted issue that God, your Creator, is eager to fix. Nothing and no one else can fix it for you.
Lastly, having high self-esteem does not mean we think of ourselves as higher or more worthy than others. God tells us, "Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too." Philippians 2:3-4 We don't want to be arrogant, but we do want to be confident and humble.