Self-Worth Isn't Determined By Others

The way in which we measure our value differs from person to person. Often times than not, it is usually determined by how others treat us. I believe God made no mistake when He placed us here with billions of other people. It is with these people that we began to grow and form our own identity and place in this world. However, more often the growth we receive from others around us tends to be negative and disturbing. It is a challenge to develop a healthy self-image of ourselves when we may not be growing in a healthy environment. 

I'll tell you a snippet of my story....

"My worth was measured based on how people treated me. Not strangers, but people within my inner circle of influence. We all know that people really can suck and mistreat one another either intentionally or by mistake. Growing up, I was always in my shell, especially when family life took a negative turn, I closed myself up even more! My dad was in and out physically, my mom was in and out emotionally, and I didn't feel very worth it. Well taken care of, but didn't always feel lovable. My worth was in the hands of everyone around me...who will accept me? Am I special? Will I become anything? Who's willing to stay by my side? Am I worth the fight? Am I worth the wait? And getting married didn't make that any better!" 

QUESTION: What if our eyes were on Jesus? And not on people and the things around us?

If we take a look around today, we can see that many have given others the responsibility of measuring their worth, their value. Many even think being in a relationship will prove they are worth something. 


"It got especially bad for me in marriage, I made my husband responsible for how important or valuable I thought I was. Yes, our spouses should treat us well and make us feel worthy of love, however it is not their responsibility to raise or lower the bar of your level of value or worth. Honestly, the fact that I even did that proves how low mine really was! And when you give that power to someone else, trust me, it is sure to get butchered!"

QUESTIONS: So how have you measured your worth? Is it measured by a purse? A man with a nice whip? How your family and friends treat you? Or have you even measured it by how many 'likes' and 'followers' you have online? It's amazing what we will do just to feel important!

"Then he said,“Beware! Guard against every kind of greed. Life is not measured by how much you own." Luke 12:15

If you measured your worth by the life of Jesus sis, it's IMMEASURABLE. Obviously you were worth a whole life, you were worth a KILLING, and I know it's hard to believe sometimes because we weren't there when Jesus died. Millions of us weren't there when MLK died either but he was too legit to quit for Civil Rights! Jesus Christ did not quit on YOU.  He saw you when He was dying on the Cross. He thought about you. He knew you'd be eating all of your feelings because you don't feel good enough, He saw you lying down with different men to feel like you were valuable, He saw you spending your whole paycheck on a designer bag although it probably felt more worth it to you than yourself when you bought it, He saw you crying yourself to sleep at night wishing you didn't have to wake up because to you, you didn't think your life mattered anyway... He felt that for you and He did it to set all who are taken captive FREE. He has a plan for your life, and you don't have to lower your standards to feel important.

You are far more precious than rubies sis (Proverbs 31:10) You no longer have to wrestle with your worth and how valuable you are...YES, it's a daily fight, but with JESUS, the battle has been won. YOU ARE MORE THAN WORTH IT.

"But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners." Romans 5:8

I pray this has blessed you! Stay tuned to the rest of the series of HOW TO HAVE A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE: Self-worth, Self-Esteem, Self-Respect, and Self-love...

#selfworth #selfvalue #youarevaluable #youareloved #jesuschrist

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