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1 Peter 3:4 - How to Have a Gentle and Quiet Spirit

I posted a TikTok video that went semi-viral (for a small profile) titled, "How to be Unbothered Part 2". The video is below because TikTok is supposed to be shutting down at the time of this writing or maybe not if you're still using it.

There were 25 saves of this video and 24 comments of women saying how much they needed to hear this. I do a lot of studying and I'd like to break down some of the points I shared in this short clip so that it can affect your hearts.

Why am I sharing this on a modesty blog? Because this ministry was founded on 1 Peter 3:3-4 and God desires that women focus more on their character than looks.

"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, but from the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight." - 1 Peter 3:3-4

First, let's understand the context of this passage. Peter is addressing husbands and wives in 1 Peter 3:1-7. He teaches that wives should be submissive and give special attention to their behavior around their husbands and that husbands should honor their wives.

In verses 3-4, he addresses where a wife's focus should be. Why would he feel the need to say this? Well, as women, we tend to place greater importance on how good we can look without much regard for our attitudes. And it's not just for wives, this is a habit of most women regardless of relationship status.

Wives have an obligation to still care for the things of the world because of the desire to please their husbands. (1 Corinthians 7:34) And sometimes we have the belief that if I keep my appearance up at home, that will be enough to make peace with my husband. But Peter says nope, don't let your beauty just be outward, let your beauty be a gentle and quiet spirit.

1 Peter 3:4 Meaning

Gentle in Greek is praus, which means mild, meek, humble. The root word pra means more than meek. It means to exercise God's strength, to be under His control. It also means to demonstrate power without undue harshness. It does not mean you're weak, but strong in God to walk in the spirit.

Quiet in Greek is hesuchios, which means tranquil and peaceful. The root word means stillness, steady, settled by divinely inspired inner calmness. It goes even further to say that this calmness prevents words that cause commotion.

1 Peter 3:4 is telling us to be unbothered! It's not that you don't care, it's that you're careful to respond in the spirit and not your flesh.

The world likes to glorify women who clap back and take control of their men, but God says a woman who is gentle and quiet is very precious in His eyes. They might see this as weakness but 1 Peter 3:1-7 is showing you how to take real control, and that's to relinquish yours and allow the spirit to have His way.

Look at the results of behaving this way:

  • Your husband could be won over to Christ

  • You are elevated to Sarah's daughter

  • Your behavior is precious to God

  • Submission becomes easier

This beauty never fades because it's a fruit of the spirit and the Holy Spirit gives life and peace.

I pray this blessed you! Please share it with your community. Want to learn about modesty and how to dress up like a daughter of God? Grab our Modesty Playbook for free!



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